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RESPECT : WE all NEED to do Better..1st Year Anniversary
RESPECT : WE all NEED to do Better..1st Year Anniversary RESPECT: WE all NEED to do Better : 1st Yr Anniversary Hello Dear Readers, It is hard to believe but it has been nearly a year since I wrote the Respect blog. So many things have changed since that moment when I first talked to Andrew about the vicious attacks on members of our LBGTQ community. I did not know the member, Thalia, when the attack on her happened. I came to know her as a wonderful, intelligent & beautiful Lady and a terrific member & asset to our site. She is now a very dear & close friend and I am very lucky to be counted among her real & true friends. Obviously the one good thing that happened is the member & her men who were behind the attacks have been banned for life from all Various Inc Sites. The disgusting petition , the death threats against members & their families all stopped. Have the banned members attempted to return ? Sadly, Yes..Have they been kicked out again ? Yes, and every time they try it again they will be met with the same fate. I was pleased to see how members from all over the world came together to fight for all members rights. I have made some wonderful new friends and discovered some great blogs that are new to me. I have seen friendships made and lost. New blog wars fought over egos and jealousies..The very thing we hoped would stop we merely slowed down. New wars over blog numbers and fake profiles boosting blogs views/comments. People complained the blogs are either boring or over sexed..No one seems happy with folks being kind to one another...it seems that a lot of the top bloggers preferred the anger and the drama. I found myself a part of all of this because I am friends with Andrew the Owner/CEO of the site. Originally I went to him to discuss a sale of the site then let him know how bad the former owners were letting down the employees, the members & the site itself. I encouraged him to come back to the site and "save it." He did come back only to run into issues with those former owners..He took a step back and again I encouraged him to try once more. Why did I do this ? Because I felt the site , the members/employees deserved this. I was not asking for myself or anything for me. I am only here to lend a hand, chat with my friends, blog and publish my erotica. Over the years I have been asked by members all around the world for help and directed each one to the right dept so they could receive the help they needed from the right employee. You may very well ask what was my reward...Some wonderful new friends, some folks who turned out to NOT be a friend and lies. One well known blogger wrote to me once demanding to know how I knew Andrew, I wrote her back politely and left it at that...only to find out she wrote a blog all about me actually being Andrew, in drag or a fake profile. For what purpose ? As the owner of the site he could look at any blog or chat room or anything , anytime he wanted..Hard to believe that this blogger claimed to be smarter then most members on the site. Other bloggers who chose to side with the banned for life blogger chose to call us "Vultures" "Trolls" ..I was even called a lawyer for other members On one friends blog posting I mentioned how wonderful it was to see so many members join together to put a stop to cyber bullying only to have another blogger announce that she was NOT a part of any group and handled the former member in " her own way." I would have thought members would like to be on the side against cyberbullying..I guess in this members case that was not to be so. Later I was told by a friend that I needed to write to this member as she had evidence that was so important to the site. I wrote to the member passing this info along that if the blogger has something to say, please turn it in to the abuse or fraud depts or email me what she feels is so important to tell me. What was this oh so important information ?? I have no idea because the member chose to block me instead. Some sadness came to me when someone I trusted turned out to have issues of her own and even though we asked everyone to stop with the baiting blogs or titles meant to cause harm...Only some bloggers wanted this cease fire/ peace ..( the idea was created by a friend of mine/fellow blogger and posted to another members blog )..and others had their friends write mean blogs with snarky titles..to think if everyone just ignored the members they do not like and treated everyone with respect...why just think of it !! NO more mean spirited bitchy blogs with idiotic titles meant to show how clever some bloggers think they are...NO more lies and ego battles..NO more childish drama at all. It is so simple to just treat others as you'd like to be treated. Have we learned nothing in this long year of fighting for members rights ?? Case in point I was advised that a popular blogger was a problem. I was constantly reminded about this from one blogger & her friends..Over and over again. I'd ask why hasn't someone tried to talk to her ? Oh NOOOOOOOOOOOO they all said..so I took it upon myself and wrote to the blogger..and I am damm glad I did because this wonderful blogger was the first member to sign up for the cease fire in the blog wars and has kept her word all this time. I was told other bloggers were afraid to agree to a cease fire for fear they'd " look guilty ." I agreed to it, other bloggers did too even though none of us had engaged in blog warfare and yet NONE of us looked guilty. I feel lucky that this wonderful blogger & I have become great & true friends. I took a chance and I am very glad I did. I may have lost fake friends from this site but I gained real & lifelong friends instead. I am lucky she took a chance on and with Me. Maybe if members gave each other some breathing room, the space to just be themselves, leave the egos & drama offline..if members could try just once to treat each other with respect then maybe this site would be the social network it was once created to be. Maybe on the 2nd anniversary of the Respect Blog I can write about how wonderful the site has become because members tried something new : Respect & Kindness. We are not asking people to force themselves to be friendly to all..Just treat ALL as you'd like to be treated. Happy 1st Yr of Respect, Hugs, Ana6 |
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[image] Thank you for reading Hugs
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i don't consider myself a blogger but I do like to drop in from time to time and chip in a few words when it seems appropriate.with this being said,it seems to me the problem really comes from those who feel the blogs and a/l is their private club and instead of sharing,try to run people not in their little group off.i appreciate your and Andrews efforts,but as long as that group continues,it probably wont get better.hope I'm wrong,so will withhold judgement till that 2nd anniversary you spoke of.. woop woop
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I think what could help deal with some of this is if the site were to enable bloggers to "ignore" certain members like is done in the chat rooms. The current blocking system does not do this. It only blocks the person from seeing your blog. Their offensive blogs and posts are still visible to you. If you could not see these offensive persons in the first place some controversies could be avoided. AB No Bozos
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This is a marvelous summation for a year that was fraught with issues and no respect. It is also a wonderful comment on a blogger who is a good friend of mine. The truce will hold up if the two of us have any say in it. Respect on here should be a GIVEN not an "earned" as it often is in the real world. This is the internet and blog fighting and blog bashing and profile sneering has zero place here. We are real people and we do not act this way in our personal lives. Thank you for this post!! (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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Hello Joy, Happy Tues. Thank you for taking the time to come here and share your thoughts with all of Us. You said it all so perfectly..It is our job to set an example whether for our Kids or friends, newbies to the site, etc. We can only control our own behavior and try to not make fun or or engage in cyber bullying towards others. I would rather make someone smile and laugh then watch them cringe in anger, pain or fear. Just as History has shown us when you single out one group for bullying it is only a matter of time until that bullying reaches beyond one group or members to shatter and intimidate ALL members. One clique to rule all. I've never been a " sheeple" or a follower. I refuse to give in or stop fighting for all. I know members do not like me based on lies from others but I will fight for them too. I do not pick or choose who I help. I can respect even those that dislike me. I am very Proud of you, Miss You are so right, We need to practice what we preach. Do right for all and it will be given to Us too. Hugs & Many Thanks, Ana6
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i don't consider myself a blogger but I do like to drop in from time to time and chip in a few words when it seems appropriate.with this being said,it seems to me the problem really comes from those who feel the blogs and a/l is their private club and instead of sharing,try to run people not in their little group off.i appreciate your and Andrews efforts,but as long as that group continues,it probably wont get better.hope I'm wrong,so will withhold judgement till that 2nd anniversary you spoke of.. Thank you for your comment & I do appreciate you taking the time to come here to my blog and share your feelings. We thought by removing a problem member with control issues that things would get back to normal and there would be an end to blog warfare & yes, I've seen the problems on Advice Line..My best advice is to as I did..I had members I trusted tell me over & over to not speak to a member...they refused to do so themselves..I finally did what I had been pleading with these members to do and found a new friend. Trust your friends here but trust your own instincts and if a member here, male or female..tries to get you to do something wrong, mean or bully a fellow member..or try to get you to hate someone because they do...find out for yourself what the member is all about and you might find a new friend. Avoid being around people who spread negativity...Positive People are more fun to be around. Happy Tues , Ana6
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Dear Nay, Welcome Back to A F F Happy to have you here with Us again. Thank you for your kind words & seeking my blog out to read. I appreciate it very much. I promise that even though we may meet with anger & resistance, we won't give up. This social networking site is made up of ALL of US not just a small group or angry members. Happy Tues Ana6
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I think what could help deal with some of this is if the site were to enable bloggers to "ignore" certain members like is done in the chat rooms. The current blocking system does not do this. It only blocks the person from seeing your blog. Their offensive blogs and posts are still visible to you. If you could not see these offensive persons in the first place some controversies could be avoided. AB Welcome to My Blog. Thank you for your comment. I agree 100 % . For years I have been asking for an " all over block " as you just described. If the person you dislike or who dislikes you is blocked then YOU are 100 % invisible to them. No chat rooms, No groups, No blog, No blog comments, NO IMC..Nothing..then if they can't see you or read your words they will look pretty foolish complaining about someone they can not interact with at all..I will keep bringing this up and keep fighting for this among other things. Thank you so much, Happy Tues, Ana6
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Dear Joy, Thank you for your beautiful & powerful words. We reached out and pulled Positive into the light and away from the darkness of negativity. This is what everyone should do ..but some are afraid so we'll keep plugging away and typing the truth until Light overcomes the dark for good. Happy Tues, Ana6
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This is a marvelous summation for a year that was fraught with issues and no respect. It is also a wonderful comment on a blogger who is a good friend of mine. The truce will hold up if the two of us have any say in it. Respect on here should be a GIVEN not an "earned" as it often is in the real world. This is the internet and blog fighting and blog bashing and profile sneering has zero place here. We are real people and we do not act this way in our personal lives. Thank you for this post!! Happy Tues How lovely to see you here again. Thank you for your kind words and for always standing up for what is right for all. I am happy to say as far as I know the truce/cease fire is still holding. I would think that when folks joined this site they did so for a variety of reasons and one of those was to interact with others and possibly meet..I would think that as more and more members see the blog negativity they will choose Positive over the nonsense. Happy Tues Hugs, Ana6
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Throughout this year, many people who LIKED your first Respect post sure didn't follow their own advice. . We've seen baiting post titles , nasty posts aimed at people, attacks on people on their own posts, attacks on people that had nothing at all to do with that post... the list goes on and on. And many of these things were done by people who "said" they loved the Respect post. Sadly, I'm seeing that people only have respect for people that they like. . And only WHILE they still like that person. . And again, only if you agree with everything that they do and NEVER voice your own opinion, not even in private. Between the nasty people and the overly ambitious people and the people who have a need for power and control, I see no end for this in the future. On the computer, people can live out their fantasies. . Even their fantasies of power. I wish it wasn't so.
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War is over... if you want it. The problem is that there are some who don't want it over. On the contrary they relish the drama. Meanwhile there are many bloggers who don't have the faintest idea what you are talking about - I only have a vague idea myself. Trouble attracts trouble, and while blog warriors take sides and line up to do battle, most of us get along quite nicely Make love, not war
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Hello my dear, I've missed you so. I was oblivious of the Cyber bullying, blog wars and all that. But.. I do appreciate all that you have done and tried to accomplish.
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Dear Alvin, Welcome to My Blog. Thank you for your comment. I agree 100 % . For years I have been asking for an " all over block " as you just described. If the person you dislike or who dislikes you is blocked then YOU are 100 % invisible to them. No chat rooms, No groups, No blog, No blog comments, NO IMC..Nothing..then if they can't see you or read your words they will look pretty foolish complaining about someone they can not interact with at all..I will keep bringing this up and keep fighting for this among other things. Thank you so much, Happy Tues, Ana6 Thanks for the reply. AB No Bozos
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[image] Hello, Thank you all for the comments here. Love hearing your thoughts & concerns and that is why I wrote this anniversary blog post a bit early. To the member who visited and left a comment about the " secret FB groups " created by members.. may I suggest you actually ask someone who is in those multiple groups about the groups and their activity ? I was in 1 group that I was told was a support group for dealing with the cyber bullying going on. I was among 4-6 people + who chose to leave when that turned out to be an inaccurate description of the group. Thank you so much for coming to my blog so early this Tues morn and sharing your comment about me & those top secret multiple groups on Fb.. with Me. Have a Fabulous Day & What a Fantastic profile Photo You have Ana6
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Throughout this year, many people who LIKED your first Respect post sure didn't follow their own advice. . We've seen baiting post titles , nasty posts aimed at people, attacks on people on their own posts, attacks on people that had nothing at all to do with that post... the list goes on and on. And many of these things were done by people who "said" they loved the Respect post. Sadly, I'm seeing that people only have respect for people that they like. . And only WHILE they still like that person. . And again, only if you agree with everything that they do and NEVER voice your own opinion, not even in private. Between the nasty people and the overly ambitious people and the people who have a need for power and control, I see no end for this in the future. On the computer, people can live out their fantasies. . Even their fantasies of power. I wish it wasn't so. Hello My Friend. Thank you so much for taking the time to come & post here. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts with us all. After all.. before I joined the fight on behalf of our bullied members you were already fighting the battle. I have noticed that some of the friends I had on one blog are no longer as active or even talking to me or others anymore. It is a shame but even in the face of lies & bullying we need to stand tall for ALL. The abuse and obscene comments hurled at our LBGTQ community of members was outrageous and should never have been tolerated in the first place. Attacks on one group of members makes it easier for the bullies to attack other members. I was sad to see the baiting blogs and snarky comments Here & there..but what can we do ? I was very happy to see some of our friends who had engaged in this stopped once we talked in private about it. It is true people will respect the people they care about first..That makes sense but what I am saying is..even the folks that have lied about me or told people to not come to this blog ..I would stand for them and have stood for them when attacks came their way. I have left the doors open on this blog..even to those who blocked me. We can not keep falling back on he said she said and if my friends hate them, then I need to do so too. NO, we don't. If members were to just leave others alone and let them blog and do what they like...Ignore those of us you do not like..Imagine all the foolish, childish games over..No need for control...Just have fun and enjoy the members who like you for YOU. Tis true that some people live their fantasies through power/control while they hide behind the computer screen. I wish them all the best and truly hope their dreams of power really fulfill them. I would rather interact with my friends and even if we disagree..we still stay friends. Hugs, Ana6
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War is over... if you want it. The problem is that there are some who don't want it over. On the contrary they relish the drama. Meanwhile there are many bloggers who don't have the faintest idea what you are talking about - I only have a vague idea myself. Trouble attracts trouble, and while blog warriors take sides and line up to do battle, most of us get along quite nicely Make love, not war Happy Tues & Thank you for taking the time out of your busy day to discover my blog & comment. Very kind of you. 100% accurate Sir..there are some members who wish to continue the baiting & blog wars..if they want to do that they will..it is up to the rest of Us to choose & decide to not participate in their power plays / blog fights. You might be surprised how many bloggers are aware of who is angry with you...seems there are members who are following in a banned members tradition of sending emails / messages telling members who to talk to and who to ignore. As the anniversary of the first Respect blog approached I thought of sharing my feelings and see who would send a reply and who would ignore a simple message of respect others & ignore the members you can not get along with. If members are curious I am sure they can check out the original Respect Blog ..( right on this page below this blog post is the original ) or look around the blog world to see who is writing what. I love to see the encouragement in your post. Make Love not war..Very well said. No war here...Just a remembrance of a yr ago when I was so proud of the members who stood up for members being bullied because of jealousy. Happy Tues, Ana6
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Dear Joy, Thank you My Friend for your posts. I agree with you..We are all unique and different people..Not all of Us are going to see eye to eye or agree. I look at a lot of blogs and love to see folks sharing and even if I have nothing to add, I enjoy their words..( even if I end up getting blocked for daring to look at a blog..) As you have heard me say over & over..Positive beats Negative every single time. Happy Tues Hugs, Ana6
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Hello Joy, This is so true Darling..and another reason your blog is so popular here..YOU share your real life/world and beautiful photos/videos. Blogging should be about all sorts of things..writing, sharing words, art and life. Happy Tues Hugs, Ana6
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Hello my dear, I've missed you so. I was oblivious of the Cyber bullying, blog wars and all that. But.. I do appreciate all that you have done and tried to accomplish. How awesome to see You Thank you for stopping by. I am hoping by shining a light on the bullying and what the aftermath is ..members quitting , women leaving and members choosing to not blog or comment for fear of becoming the next target..Thus cutting us all off and depriving the site & members of a new & wonderful voice. Thank you for your lovely words. I am sooo blushing. It is such a Joy to see you here. xo, Ana6
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Dear Jn, Happy Thurs Thank you so much for your insightful words. Being popular is not a bad thing at all..unless the person who has suddenly catapulted into the limelight is not used to it and they get paranoid about being # 1. You know I have never cared about that or the cursed list. This intense need to be # 1 on any site is so strange to me. To work so hard to be Number 1 but reaching that height by fake profiles boosting your blogs with fake comments...so much work and for what ?? All you end up doing is making yourself a HUGE Target by the next wannabe Number # 1. Thank you Hugss, Ana6
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I was actually thinking the other way around. If I block someone then it is they that become invisible to me. Like they don't exist on this site. It works real good on the face place. Thanks for the reply. AB Happy Tues & You're welcome for my reply..If you block someone it should be a total block..for you, for them. They do not see you, quote you or insult you and You do not see them or their words at all. Thank you for coming back & for the comments, Happy Tues Night..and Wed to Be, Ana6
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Darling RB, Thank you f or stopping by Lovely to see you. You are right ...there are some bloggers who skipped the mess , some bloggers who joined the fight for all members and some bloggers who either ignored all of it and went on their own way...or some who sided with the member banned for life. I am one of those women who fit in with all groups & have a wide variety of friends from ALL walks of life. I love how unique and fascinating my friends are...I am also one of those women who refuse to buckle down and follow a herd because it is safer then striking out on my own..I never longed for or fought for a spot on a list the site created..I do not gauge my worthiness by a position on a list of names..You are the same it seems You are so right if the banned member had her way Most of the female blogging population would be depleted and you and your Love might never have met. Thank you for proving those of Us who said it could be done are right !! .. YOU BOTH FOUND LOVE ON THIS SITE.. I had one member argue against the possibility of it ever happening for anyone here..I pointed out my sister is living with her fiance from here..other couples who met, married and engaged..but NO..this member had to know more then any of us and she basically said we were all liars..Needless to say I am thrilled for you both. Happy Wed Hugs & Thanks for stopping by ..Means a lot to me Ana6
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Ah McAna, a wonderful post once again. And once again we are in your debt for your tireless efforts on our behalf! Thankyou! Thank you my wonderful friend for taking the time to stop by my blog & share your lovely compliment & opinion. I have been thinking about you for months now..Netflix gave me a free month and I discovered some hysterical Scottish comedians & their sketch shows airing on it..I LOVE " Still Game " & " Chewin The Fat " ,..I wish you were here with us watching and explaining some of the in jokes to me. Lucky me, I found their work on Y Tube too. Thank you for always being so kind to me & generous with your time & words, XO, Ana6
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Ah McAna, now Chewin the Fat and Still Game are comedy gold, Jack and Victor are classic auld jocks. Also look out for Rab C Nesbitt and Naked Video, they were the fore runners and some of the characters originated there. Certainly the style of comedy did. If ye ever need a translation just ghee'z (usually spelled 'gie's' ) a shout! In fact, I think when Rab C Nesbitt aired in the US it came with sub-titles!! It's the queen's own scottish ye ken!! In view of the ridiculous and unwarranted hassle you get for trying to go that extra mile on our behalf, a little kindness seems somewhat inadequate in response, it is the least I can do for such a lovely person as you! Happy Weekend Babe Thank you so much. When I had netflix for the free month I chose to look at UK comedies then found Our Scottish Gold. I did see Rab C Nesbitt & The Limey Show too. I just adored the actors from Chewin The Fat & Still Game..( I am caught up there to season # 8. ) I was so into the shows that I began speaking with a Scottish accent I love the " N'ae Bother " phrase...I kept using it so much Sugar just shook his head and asked me for subtitles when I speak..LOL..I will look for Naked Video..thank you for mentioning it to me. I love to laugh & love great comedians. Thank you dear Friend for your kind words. I just felt as the 1st anniversary approached I needed to touch base and see how far we've come since the initial cyber bullying began. Sad to say we have only taken baby steps but at least we are all trying. I have been receiving messages about others angry that I wrote this blog post. Last time I checked this was MY blog and I was allowed to share MY thoughts & concerns with all as long as I follow the TOU rules. I used the example of the bitchy blogs/baiting titles in reference to the truce/cease fire and that was misconstrued into something else...some people will never give up stirring the poop pot because they are soooooooooooooo anxious to be Important or popular. I still stand where I have always stood..quietly in the corner keeping an eye out for a raised hand that needs help..and there I shall stay..I was here before the wannabe's arrived and will be here long after they fade from memory ..Thank you for always being so kind & such a great friend. Can't wait to get to the UK so I can come watch telly with you so you can translate for me.. XO, Ana6
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Hi Ana Hello friend, Here is Thalia saying Hello Thank you for the wonderful words. I see some things have not change in the blogs. people inflating their own comment count is very dishonest and stupid at the same time. but we know that is how that lady works. she has been doing it for over a year. since the list went to comment count back in July 2016. but her fake profiles been here longer than that. is good that people is talking about. people needs to speak out just to let her know that we know. Hopefully something will change after this post. I will be pushing along with you from here, I promised Will do my best to swing by the blogs again when I have the time. Sent you an email, check it out
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I was not here a lot when this was going on, but did see some sniping. I am relieved the ceasefire is over and am glad that the bullying and name calling by a particular former blogger no longer clutters the blogs. Check out my profile or and become a "watcher" of my blog FMAOPLS,to learn more about me, and for intelligent, lively, smartassy and fun discussion, with a little irreverence thrown in. "Like" or comment on my photos, and I promise I'll add more. Thanks.
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I honestly believe this past year has been much less drama free because of the actions of yourself and other bloggers. Long may it continue.
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"If I had not stood my ground on this Site and/or been bullied off, then it's unlikely I would have met the amazing guy that I have now......". I am thrill to hear that my friend. I am so glad that you found someone who apparently is making you very happy tstvdates.com is a great site. it works, I know that very well. all people need is to hang in there and do what we are here for. which is to meet people for real and have fun. of course, that if compatible. Again, I am very happy for you both, my friend
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Hi Ana Hello friend, Here is Thalia saying Hello Thank you for the wonderful words. I see some things have not change in the blogs. people inflating their own comment count is very dishonest and stupid at the same time. but we know that is how that lady works. she has been doing it for over a year. since the list went to comment count back in July 2016. but her fake profiles been here longer than that. is good that people is talking about. people needs to speak out just to let her know that we know. Hopefully something will change after this post. I will be pushing along with you from here, I promised Will do my best to swing by the blogs again when I have the time. Sent you an email, check it out Welcome Home Babe Awesome to see You. Thank you for visiting my blog & sharing your thoughts. I know the member you are speaking of and am sure new reports about illegal and unfair / fake blogging comments are being handed in. It is a shame that the rush / need to be # 1 on a web site would drive someone to this kind of foolish/ stupid behavior. Thank you for the emails I did see them and I owe you a reply Happy weekend Love & xo, Ana6
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Hello Spunky, Welcome to my blog Thank you for sharing your eloquent opinion & thoughts. Very well said. Countless times I can remember when I was misunderstood in something I typed to a friend or they to me..I find asking my friends if I understood them correctly goes a long way to clear up /eliminate any negative misconceptions. Happy Weekend Hugs, Ana6
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I was not here a lot when this was going on, but did see some sniping. I am relieved the ceasefire is over and am glad that the bullying and name calling by a particular former blogger no longer clutters the blogs. Happy Sat & Welcome To My Blog. Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment. I am grateful that through everyone's efforts the sniping, name calling and blog baiting are at a minimum rather then the norm. Happy weekend Hugs, Ana6
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I honestly believe this past year has been much less drama free because of the actions of yourself and other bloggers. Long may it continue. Thank you for your kind words about the bloggers who United to work on protecting members from cyber bullying . Thank you for believing. I truly think if everyone agreed to treat each other as they would wish to be treated then this place would truly be a wonderful social network indeed. Happy Weekend Hugs, Ana6
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"If I had not stood my ground on this Site and/or been bullied off, then it's unlikely I would have met the amazing guy that I have now......". I am thrill to hear that my friend. I am so glad that you found someone who apparently is making you very happy tstvdates.com is a great site. it works, I know that very well. all people need is to hang in there and do what we are here for. which is to meet people for real and have fun. of course, that if compatible. Again, I am very happy for you both, my friend Happy Sat Babe Isn't it glorious the wonderful news about our RB ?? Happy for them both and happy to see you back here with Us. Yes, this site is great and when it works right for all members it is perfection..that is why we all keep saying United we stand & One for all & All for One. Thank you for your lovely words. Happy Hugs, Ana6
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We have been blessed with a long tradition of top notch comedy talent here, right back to Hector Nicol and Chic Murray, probably even further back to Robert Burns. Very much like the Irish, we've always had the ability not to take ourselves too seriously. Piss-taking is an inherent part of our culture. I reckon there must be some Celt in your ancestry McAna if you're able to enjoy the scottish sense of humour to the full! If you really want to wind yer man there up, start saying things like 'och', 'och aye', 'och aye the noo', 'nae bother big man', 'hawd yer wheesht', 'gawn yersel' big yin'........... I can only guess at the individuals/groups who would be angry at you for posting this. It's saddening that people would behave like that towards you of all people. I expect they're jealous of your friendship with Mr Various, and of your ability to be even-handed and to reach out and help anyone who asks, irrespective of their affiliations. And isn't it sad that we even need to talk about affiliations? Saddest of all my dear wonderful lady is that you have been made to feel bad for only ever doing good. However, I have definitely noticed a lightening of spirits hereabouts since that horrible time last year and since the 'truce', and I've noticed a fair few good new bloggers turning up, and a fair few good old bloggers returning. So please keep the faith gorgeous girl, and ignore the nay sayers and jealous fools. A wise person once told me to keep behaving the way I do, with dignity and respect to those who would merit it, and even those who wouldn't, and let those who would behave badly do so, they will show themselves up for what they are without any help from anyone else. You've done nothing wrong to anyone here, you've only ever done good things, please never forget that. And on that happy note, hurry up and get yer arses over here, I'll get the telly on and the whisky ready. We'll start wi' a wee jig at a ceilidh and end wi' a wee spell ay Jack and Victor and a wee drop of the good stuff, nae bother at aw! Happy weekend Sexy I love this message I adored it when " Big Man " was on the show. " Nae Bother Big Man " I shall try it on him today. He has my attempts at perfecting my Scottish accent for weeks now..I just watched the original stage play of " Still Game Live " from 1999. Amazing to see Victor, Jack and Winston come to life. Thank you for your comforting words..I shall keep on doing what I have always done round here..try to help..even with the lies, brick bats, cyber bullying, false friends, members reading these blog posts of ours and reporting them to others on & offsite..I think sadly some folks want to see the peace & goodwill for all to fail because they love the disharmony ..if members are tearing at each other then they are to busy to pay attention to their blog audience and thus lose fans for their blogs and suddenly...the sad ones rise up through the cursed blog list ( sad to say sometimes on the backs of fake profiles ) I love the lighter spirit of the blogs and have been encouraging all who write to me to check out the NEW blogs..Look at what Men & Women can do when there is Peace ..Look at all their creativity. Thank you once more My Darling & Forever Friend for your lovely words & kind compliments. So Generous & I am so grateful. Keep that wee drop ready for me Babe..I give Good Jig Honey.. XXOO, Ana6
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[image] Hello Happy Readers & Friends, Thank you all for stopping by to read this blog post & all the latest replies. It really is fascinating to me to see so many member names I know popping in to read & share with their friends I kept hearing this quote and it struck me as this is what we've been saying for yrs.. Great Image, Great quote and Great Man, Winston Churchill. Hugs, Maureen
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i am all happy to hear that...you guys make a cute couple...and especially you, deserves to be happy, after all that you went though... congrats!!! and many blessings...
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Ana, Such a wonderful post!!! I really thought once i was gonna leave this site, due to all the nasty things that were going on...but you encouraged me to stay...and this place is a far better place once again... Thank you!!!
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i am all happy to hear that...you guys make a cute couple...and especially you, deserves to be happy, after all that you went though... congrats!!! and many blessings... Happy Sun Night/Mon week to be. Isn't the news just wonderful ? I love to see my friends happy & in love..and to think they met on this Site !!! Hugss, Ana6
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Ana, Such a wonderful post!!! I really thought once i was gonna leave this site, due to all the nasty things that were going on...but you encouraged me to stay...and this place is a far better place once again... Thank you!!! Happy Mon Beautiful O M G ..I love that Respect Image and have to snag it for my page. Thank you for choosing to stay here with us. Our site would be a lot sadder/darker without you and your amazing blog. Thank you so much for your kind words for and to me. I appreciate them more then I can say. Hugss, Ana6
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Darling Thalia, Welcome Home Babe Awesome to see You. Thank you for visiting my blog & sharing your thoughts. I know the member you are speaking of and am sure new reports about illegal and unfair / fake blogging comments are being handed in. It is a shame that the rush / need to be # 1 on a web site would drive someone to this kind of foolish/ stupid behavior. Thank you for the emails I did see them and I owe you a reply Happy weekend Love & xo, Ana6 I heard blogs are and have been a little slow, but no for her, she is rocking those comments, with fake profiles of course
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Great, good to know that you are on top of that. cause in the process. she is cheating tstvdates.com and also cheating all the others bloggers that she calls "friends". that person, the cheating lady, top blogger. I think she was suspended back in April for a few things, I think cheating was one of them. I am sure that if they go back to check her record, they will see the cheating problem is not new. cause it has been reported before. that should help. let me know if you need some help in that matter. I would be more than happy to help. I heard blogs are and have been a little slow, but no for her, she is rocking those comments, with fake profiles of course Happy Tues BABE I have been hearing a lot of complaints about the cursed blog list and the cheating , fake profiles, fake comments etc..and all roads seem to lead in one direction and to 1 blogger. It is such a shame that some folks feel the only way to be # 1 is to cheat. I think of all the bloggers who work so hard on their blogs..to do photos, videos and write very intelligent, fun, sexy posts..and their blogs go un-noticed. It is breaking the TOU rules and shows disrespect to all the hard working bloggers/ members who put 150 % of themselves into their blogs with no recognition. Please feel free to Help out the site & abuse dept. I keep asking all members to send in any evidence of abuse & fraud. Thank you My Friend Hugs, Ana6
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Dear Joy, Happy Wed Darling and Oh yes..You & I think alike about that list..You said it all so perfectly. Thank you for sharing. I am blessed & very lucky to have you in my life my fellow Kindred Spirit Hugss, Ana6
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Darling RB, Happy Wed Thank you for stopping by my dear..Your ears must have been burning as you knew our friends were leaving you messages here It truly was meant to be Babe. You two make the perfect & happy couple indeed. Happy Wed Hugs for you both, Ana6
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so glad this is only a sliver of my experience! and so glad I am not alone! thank you for writing, and reminding people respect begats respect! I tend to have shit talked to me when I reject someones sexual advances, thank goodness it is actually rare to experience hostility, but thankful for the block feature!!
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Dear Joy, Tis true indeed and very well said Happy Thurs Hugs, Ana6
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so glad this is only a sliver of my experience! and so glad I am not alone! thank you for writing, and reminding people respect begats respect! I tend to have shit talked to me when I reject someones sexual advances, thank goodness it is actually rare to experience hostility, but thankful for the block feature!! Welcome to My Blog. Thank for stopping by and sharing your kind & generous words and experiences on this site. I have received some of those rude kind of replies myself. I'd been kind and helped a man here on site with some advice and suddenly he wrote to me asking me to meet him on a street in a city near me at 2 am...when I wrote back that I would not be doing that he wrote back in anger telling me what a waste of time I was..I thought about my reply and wrote back with a smile thanking him for letting me know what he truly thought and felt and that I wished him all the best & hoped he would meet some members here and make that connection he was looking for. I never heard from him again after that. Very well said Respect begats Respect. Thank you for understanding what I was trying to say. Hope you will visit here again.. Happy Thurs , Ana6
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[image] Hello All, Happy weekend Sorry to report there is that the oh so familiar report of Cyber Bullies back at it on the site & Blog world is on again. I have seen 2 attempts on a top female blogger & on another blogger too. What do they have in common ? Same " profile " targets both women and suddenly blocks members from viewing her or the " male profile "account. Isn't that interesting ? What made me smile ? The well said reply to this idiotic troll/cyber bully " members " Thankfully the site can quite easily track the " member " accounts to their original source. PLEASE JUST SAY NO TO CYBER BULLIES. Hugs, Ana6
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[image] #JustSatNo
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[image] Hello All, Happy weekend Sorry to report there is that the oh so familiar report of Cyber Bullies back at it on the site & Blog world is on again. I have seen 2 attempts on a top female blogger & on another blogger too. What do they have in common ? Same " profile " targets both women and suddenly blocks members from viewing her or the " male profile "account. Isn't that interesting ? What made me smile ? The well said reply to this idiotic troll/cyber bully " members " Thankfully the site can quite easily track the " member " accounts to their original source. PLEASE JUST SAY NO TO CYBER BULLIES. Hugs, Ana6
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And if you're familiar with the history of it all, it's not hard to tell exactly where it's coming from. . Happy Sun & Thank you for your comment. It is sad that history seems to be repeating itself with the fake profiles leaving rude/abusive comments on bloggers posts. Seems so stupid to me because 1) way to obvious 2) Motive and History pattern already established 3) The site can and will easily trace fake accounts to the pc that created them. At least we know what to expect and from who.. Hugs, Ana6
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Dear Whatfun39, Welcome back to the Site !! I see you remember how bad it got in Our Blog World..It was terrible and extremely childish on the part of some bloggers who ended up deleted/banned and other bloggers getting their friends to leave mean/angry comments on blogs that belong to people they do not like It really was a damm shame. I see the difference in the blogs too and hope we can keep it going in a Positive way and just kick the negative to the curb. Thank you for your kind & generous words over both of My Respect Blogs. Your words mean so much to me. Happy Weekend Hugs, Ana6
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Dear Wanting, Happy Tues Darling It is lovely to see you back at my blog. Very kind of you to stop by, read and share your very well said opinion/concerns. I am in 100% agreement with you. I have been pleading with upper management to remove the blog lists for Yrs. The way it has been set up and left to molder is causing no end of trouble with the members determined to sit on top of that cursed blog list ..NO matter what the cost. I also agree that No member needs hundreds/thousands of fake accounts so they can engage in cheating to be on that dammed list or use their fake accounts to bully other bloggers/members on their blogs or profiles. Sad thing is..there are so many fakes/trolls/bullies..that the nonsense just does not end. Recently 2 female bloggers were cyber bullied on site and had demeaning messages left on their blog posts by one male handle and one female handle ..suddenly they show up at 2 blogs which they'd never visited before and unleashed on the bloggers...then just as quickly, the female handle suddenly vanished from the site when some of Us pointed out what they were doing and how easily these fake accounts can be traced back to the pc and member who created them. Sadly some members think the baiting blogs and stupid blog titles aimed at hurting another member is funny..Thankfully, Most members disagree with them and their " followers ." You have made some excellent suggestions and as I said I do approve. I will make sure that Our CEO gets copy of your message to me. Thank you for taking the time out of your busy day to post this thoughtful & intelligent reply. Happy Tues Hugs & Lovely to see you here, Ana6
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[image] Thank you Wanting for your kind words about my recent blog post. Hugs, Ana6
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[image] Happy Thurs All, I just shared this on a friends blog and thought it belonged here too. I hope folks share the image & the words..Just a reminder to yourself to stay strong, be who you are and not what someone expects or demands you be..Be a leader and not, NOT a follower.. Everyone is Unique & Everyone has a right to be here, to be a Member and Blog, share , create , chat and exist..Not just the " chosen few. " Once again I need to remind people if you are unhappy here or abused by other members PLEASE report them to the abuse dept asap..If you are unhappy because this site has so many wonderful members who are happy to follow the rules and Terms of Use and you are not...well then there are over 3,000 other dating sites online and you might be happier there. Have a Great Day & Hugs, Ana6
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I'm still amazed at how so many people agreed with your idea the first time, but now could care less. . I'm guessing they were just fooling everyone the first time...
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I'm still amazed at how so many people agreed with your idea the first time, but now could care less. . I'm guessing they were just fooling everyone the first time... Happy Wed I am not amazed or surprised. I think last year when the fight was over Thalia & the attacks on LBGTQ members and their rights..it was a springboard for members to voice their concerns and feelings about how unfair the abuse was and is to ALL members. This year with the abusive member banned for life..members moved on. When a member wrote a wonderful blog and you suggested a cease fire and some members raced to agree with it..there was hope the ego driven blogs & bitchiness would stop..Alas, since only some members agreed..we were outnumbered by the ones who refused. I wrote this in remembrance of Thalia and to remind folks that the battle goes on and those of us who have been fighting for members rights will keep that battle going. To stand up for ALL members . Hugs, Ana6
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[image] #SayNoToBullies #StandUpForWhatIsRight #NeverGiveUpOnWhatYouBelieveIn
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Thank you Joy, I appreciate you stopping by and sharing your thoughts with all of Us. I agree with you we need to keep spreading as much Joy and positive attitude so everyone who is not one of the IN people on site or left behind and abused can feel they have a place where they can be free and share without bullies and abusers bringing their negative into the mix. Positive Beats Negative every single time. Hugs, Ana6
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Dear Joy, Thank you My Friend I was not trying to be inclusive or rude. ..It is just that I keep hearing because of the members here NO ONE will be ever happy or blog in peace because that is the way the blogs and bloggers work/ want it to be.. I 100 % disagree with that assessment of the so called " facts ." If bloggers are unhappy here then I will encourage them to find peace and perhaps a place better suited to them. This site was created to be the 1st social networking site..NOT the 1st site for members to belittle one another and abuse. Peace , Kindness and Respect work when everyone commits to those ideals . Hugss, Ana6
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[image] Joy, Thank you You took a chance on a Pepperpot Like me and we spoke..really talked and got to know each other away from all the negativity and lies spread about both of Us. Thank you for giving me a chance to prove myself. Thank you for being such a Great friend. Happy weekend Hugs, Ana6
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[image] Dear Joy, Yes we are Kindred Spirits Indeed !! Very lucky to find a #RedHotRedHead here Thank you for visiting my blog & sharing your wonderful images & thoughts. I really appreciate it. Happy Weekend Hugss, Ana6
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[image] #Pepperpots Hugs, Ana6
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[image] Happy Weekend, I wanted to add this post about some abuse happening in a couple of our chat rooms here on site. I have known for years about the bullying & harassing that goes on in the chat rooms. I've been a victim of it myself. I truly think that such behavior has led to the downfall of the chat rooms. I used to visit with my friends in one chat room and we'd have a crowd of great members ..up to 35 people all happily chatting at once..Sometimes the room was so crowded that members were being bounced out to let in new members to chat !! ALL day long that room was crowded then the jealousy , stupidity, trollish behavior started and members began to abandon chat rooms. You can't really blame them. I am mentioning this because I have been waiting for the United Bloggers to mention this subject as it mirrors what the Banned for Life member was doing to Our LBGTQ community...Yet no one has other then this dear friend who is going through this mess has blogged about it. I have talked at great length with the Head of Our Abuse dept about these grotesque attacks against members both male and female . WE all need to stand up and say NO to attacks on blogs, via email, advice line/magazine or IMC and in groups/chat rooms. PLEASE Join Us in this battle to preserve the site & the rights for all members to have a safe & fun time on site without the trolls engaging in lies and brutal attacks..PLEASE have a peek at this blog and comment if you can.. Thank You Hugss, Ana6 #Solidarity My Friends Blog Post : the basementa personal journey
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[image] WE all stand as one against any form of intolerance against members..If it is simple out of control egos or harsher forms of bigotry & abuse. WE will not stand idly by when members attack other members. #Solidarity. Hugs, Ana6
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[image] Hello All My Darling Readers, Happy Weekend World Hope everyone is doing Great. Just wanted to update some situations ongoing in our Blogging/Chat world. I have heard that the chat room squabbles and abuse have been put to rest..perhaps only for a moment but it is quieter and folks are back to enjoying a chat world where bullies and their idiotic behavior are NOT tolerated. Great job to those brave members who took the time to report the problem handles. Next up is a problem that occurred when a female blogger wrote on her own blog about another member she found unattractive. She did not name the woman in question but her remarks have upset a lot of bloggers and members both male and female..2 blogs that I have seen written about this incident have said it all quite well. I just wanted to say that every blogger can write what they feel & like and should without fear of censorship but to single out a woman and abuse her, bully her and make fun of her is never going to be allowed..Perhaps the female blogger just wanted attention to be focused on her and well...from what I saw she achieved that.. All I can add is feel free to blog , post, comment whatever you like all anyone is asking is that you follow the rules of the site TOU and that you do not lower yourself to abuse and use lies to promote your blog. If you find the woman unattractive or man..then ignore them. Thanks to all who have been using the # hashtags with their signatures and posts..I love doing them and so glad to see others do too...How flattering to see copies of my words everywhere Thanks to my friends who used the Respect blogs in their signature hashtags. ( or Pound sign as I was reminded it once was known as..) #LovingIt #HappyWeekend #RESPECTALLFEARNOTHINGANDNOONE #BeKindBeLovedBeReal Thank You all for your sharing your thoughts ,concerns and feelings.. Happy Weekend Hugs, Ana6
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Good Morning Darling I am so glad the image made you LOL..I have always called myself a " PepperPot " and since you & I are so much alike..#RealRockingRedheads..I looked up Red Pepperpots in Google and voila' There the photo was Happy Terrific Thurs Xo, Ana6
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