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I agree, here is just as good a place as any to find "love." Especially since you enjoy your share of kink. I hope you find what you're seeking.
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I'm somewhat coming into the same situation you bring to attention here. I'm thinking that now that things have gone to the next level with a younger man I met the old fashioned way I need to be honest about the lifestyle with him and go from there. It's funny as I had planned on telling my new boyfriend about this tomorrow and here you are in the same boat! My belief is with honesty either things will end up as desired or go downhill fast, but as long as I'm true to myself and those I care about things will work out how they are supposed to. Good luck on the dating scene : )
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Hmmm ... classic damned if you do, damned if you don't dilemma. If you mention sex or hint at preferences in your profile, you'll get inundated with dick pics and offers for quick sex or gang bangs. But if you don't make your preferences known, you may end up with someone sexually incompatible, right? And if you spend time with someone without disclosing such information, there's always a chance he may lose interest once he learns about this particular kink. There's a recent blog (Why do I feel a difference?) which delves into the complexities. Definitely a delicate situation. [post 3940193]
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I have not been in this situation yet. I would bring it out into the open as soon as possible. The basis and foundation of the relationship needs to be strong, for it to survive, and for that it needs honesty. Meeting someone from here or elsewhere, in my mind is almost the same. In the vanilla sites the aim is just the same, to find someone compatible go out with them, and end up having sex ,eventually. There can be people on vanilla sites who also looking for casual sex, just not brave enough to admit it, for fear of what their family, friends, or others might say, or whatever. Some with one at a time. Some with many. Others, with many, until a keeper appears, and then decide if they want to go steady. As long as both partners know from the beginning, they can be casual partners and still be looking, ( allowing both to look for and meet others, while they still see each other ) or they can be still casual, but just for each other ( in which case neither is looking or meeting others while they are together ). Now, what happens if the other person does not agree ? Well, it's time to part ways then, as they are not what you are looking for. Many combinations to this. You could also try to introduce them to the life style, if you wanted to keep them and thought you could achieve it. In all cases, having been honest from the start makes whatever happens next easier. Please sign My guestbook Have a look at My profile for standard members Tell me a secret or send me a message at Private messages
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